Michael29, part-time IT manager, married for two-and-a-half years, with a month-old son. Justin45, lawyer, married for 12 years to his second wife, though they live apart - his wife lives with her sister. He has one child, now 21, from his first marriage. Russell43, marketing executive, married for 16 years, with three children. He and his wife recently separated. Carl41, teacher, has lived with his partner for 15 years, with whom he has a nine-year-old son.
But she's someone who doesn't really reflect on her own emotional make-up. And that's been difficult for us. She doesn't live with me, but with her sister. We see each other once Hookup a much older married man week. She's intelligent and self-assured, not at all fiery, unlike my first wife. I didn't want to carry on going through the whole going-out-for-two-years-and-splitting-up thing.
It was time to grow up. Would I have got married if all my friends hadn't been getting married around that time? I was 27; my wife was just We were in love. At the time we would have loved to have had children, but I think that it was a bit too late for us. Funnily enough, now that things are hard between us, Hookup a much older married man talk about everything.
If we'd talked to each other three years ago as we do now, we probably wouldn't be struggling. We're far better friends now purely because we're speaking from the bottom of our hearts.
In the past, she's kept a lot of emotion to herself, and I've grown to be a lot like her. I make excuses that I've got a business meeting if I don't want to pull my weight with the childcare We don't tell each other everything, unlike a lot of husbands and wives.
Yes - three, during the course of our marriage. I'd say these were driven by the wish for excitement, as well as feeling bored at home. The thing is, I get a lot of freedom in my marriage - more than enough rope to hang myself.
But I don't have any conscience about it. I've told my buddies about my affairs, but as far as my wife is concerned, she knows nothing. I'm still the wonderful nice guy she married. When I married, I made a decision that I wasn't going to be tempted. And with a child it felt as if my lot was now thrown in with Grace. Certainly, I've felt attracted by other women, but I've always known I wouldn't act on Hookup a much older married man.
There was just the one. The problem was sex: And one day I told her I wasn't getting as much as I wanted, and she said, 'Well, go off and get it somewhere else if you want to, just don't tell me about it.
Looking back, she might have meant it as a joke, but it didn't sound like a joke at the time. It was fantastic - a younger girl in the office, whom I found extremely attractive, and who obviously found me attractive. It was never going to go any further than that. It was just an ego boost.
I've forgotten how to flirt. If an affair was going to happen, someone would have to come on to me so strong, when I was drunk or whatever. I couldn't do the chasing.
It'd have to be a weird, left-field thing, on a business trip Yes, though she doesn't know. I guess I've had about four affairs. These were triggered partly by opportunity - women in the workplace.
Being away from home at least one night in four. So these affairs were always with work colleagues.